When telling others about your goals compromises them

This week’s edition of Psych Wednesdays was written by Kate Reilly. It was originally published on Psych Your Mind on April 5, 2013.


As you think ahead about what you want to accomplish in the next few months and years, you probably have several goals that involve you “becoming” something – like a good athlete or a good doctor. These are called “identity goals” because they are goals to achieve a certain identity, and they can be attained by engaging in identity-relevant activities, like training for a marathon or going to medical school. In order to enact these behaviors, we might tell others about them – “Hey, I’m going to run a marathon this year!” or “Yay! I’m headed to med school in the fall!” Maybe we have the sense that telling others about our intended actions will help us complete them, and subsequently, help us get closer to reaching our eventual identity goals. However, in this post, I am going to describe evidence showing that this is not the case: telling others about our plans for identity-relevant activities can hinder our accomplishment of them.

Why might telling others about our plans for identity-relevant activities prevent us from actually doing them? Research conducted by Peter Gollwitzer has shown that individuals feel closer to having achieved their identity goals when their identity-relevant activities (e.g., attending medical school) are noticed by others. On the basis of this work, Gollwitzer and his colleagues hypothesized that even if others notice only our plans for identity-relevant activities, we might also feel closer to having achieved our identity goals. Because we then feel closer to having achieved our identity goals, we may feel less of a need to actually enact those behaviors. They demonstrated evidence for this hypothesis inseveral different studies, one of which I will describe here.


The researchers studied law students who had an identity goal to become a successful jurist. They asked them to report on a scale of 1 to 9 how much they intended “to make the best possible use of educational opportunities in law.” In other words, they gave participants the chance to say that they had a plan to enact a specific identity-relevant behavior. Next, one of two things occurred. In the social-reality condition, an experimenter confirmed that the participant circled the choice he/she wanted to circle, and then dropped the questionnaire into a box. In the no-social-reality condition, the participants were simply instructed to complete the questionnaire and then drop it into a box.

To study how much social recognition of a plan to enact an identity-relevant behavior influenced how much people enacted their plans, participants were given 45 minutes to work on 20 different criminal law cases. The researchers then documented how many minutes participants spent working on the law cases. Results showed that participants in the social-reality condition (those who had their plans recognized by the experimenter) worked for significantly less time than the participants in the no-social-reality condition (those who did not have their plans recognized by the experimenter).


Not only does social recognition of one’s plans hinder the enactment of those plans, but it can also lead to a premature sense that one already possesses the desired identity. In a different study, law students came to the lab and individually met with two other people who were supposedly also law students. They were all asked to write down plans that were meant to help them become a successful jurist. In the social-reality condition, participants had to read aloud these plans to the experimenter and the other two “law students.” In the no-social-reality condition, they were asked to rate the attractiveness of 10 pictures.

Then, participants were asked to rate how much they felt like a jurist in that moment. These results revealed that participants felt more like a jurist in the social-reality condition than in the no-social-reality condition. Once people had told other students about their plans to be a successful jurist, they actually felt more like a jurist! You can imagine that once you feel more like a jurist, you might be less likely to put in the work required to be one.


I think these findings are especially relevant given that so many of us announce our plans to engage in identity-relevant activities on Facebook (e.g, “Starting my marathon training today” or “Going to be at the library all weekend”). We then get social recognition in the form of likes and comments. Perhaps now you will be conscious of how these habits might actually hinder you from enacting your plans and reaching your desired identity!


Gollwitzer, P.M. (1986). Striving for specific identities: The social reality of self-symbolizing. Private self and public self, 143-159 DOI:10.1007/978-1-4613-9564-5_7

Gollwitzer, P., Sheeran, P., Michalski, V., & Seifert, A. (2009). When Intentions Go Public: Does Social Reality Widen the Intention-Behavior Gap? Psychological Science, 20 (5), 612-618 DOI: 10.1111/j.1467-9280.2009.02336.x

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    I am not sure if these findings are robust enough. Perhaps further studies are required. I personally find the support and encouragement very important to complete. Having others support my growth by knowing my intentions puts my plans in existence, and creates a structure that holds me accountable. They check on how I progress, they give ideas, connect me to people I should talk to etc. I think there is an enormous power in meaningful networks of people who create an enabling environment for my goals to be completed. Perhaps it is about screening who to tell, but it is definitely extremely important as “no man is an island”…These kind of studies and conclusions may be quite “damaging” for those who depend on structures for completions of their goals.

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